When it comes to dating tips for women, one size doesn’t fit all. A young woman in her teens or 20s dates A LOT differently than a woman in her 30s and 40s. And while most women generally want the same outcome, there are certain things women in their 30s and 40s know about dating that they disregarded or simply didn’t focus as much on in their younger years.
That’s why we talked to some of today’s top dating experts to see what they saw as the most important advice women in their 30s and 40s dating today should think about. After going through what they had to say, we came up with these 101 top dating tips for women who are ready for something more serious.
1. Don’t take dating too seriously.
This basically means that you should enjoy your dates more. Aside from that, you should also view dating as something that can offer you an opportunity to meet new people and socialize. Moreover, it can also offer you a potential for finding someone whom you can build a relationship with.
2. Don’t date out of desperation.
Never date just because you are desperate of having a relationship. This is because it can lead to having someone whom you may want to change for the better, in the future. Aside from that, since desperation can cloud your judgment, you may end up with someone who will just make you more insecure.
3. Don’t date other people to make someone jealous.
When you are dating another person just to make someone jealous about it, then you are not doing anyone a favor. This is because; you might end up showing the other person that you really like him or her. Aside from that, chances are, you might also suggest that you really are enjoying yourself with another company when you are not.
4. Practice caution on multiple dating.
When you are dating a number of men or women, you might end up stressing yourself out. This is because multiple dating is never easy, and it needs you to become very organized. Although you may be enjoying the variety of persons multiple dating can offer to you, it is still less stressful when you are not always worrying about sending the wrong text messages or emails to the wrong person.
5. Be yourself.
Being yourself in dating can go a long way, especially if you are on a quest to finding a person to have a healthy relationship with. This is because when you won’t be hiding anything from your date, you can be assured that he would be accepting you just the way you are, if your relationship grows.
6. Don’t date to play games.
Dating can involve emotions of people who are included in it. Therefore, if you are looking at date, as something that you enjoy just like your games, then you should rethink it. This is because playing games with people’s emotions is not a good idea. Thus, it is best to see it as something that is serious, since, just like you, other people also do not want to get hurt.
7. Lending money to your date.
If you want to lend money to your date, you have to make sure that you are already in a relationship. Aside from that, you should also trust him or her. This is because if you lend someone money, whom you are not in a deep relationship with, then there is a huge possibility that he or she won’t be able to pay you with the money you lent.
8. Enjoy dating not just for sex.
When you are enjoying your sexual interactions, it can affect your decision making, which can cause negative results. Therefore, it is always suggested not to sleep with someone on the first few dates. By doing that, you can focus more on getting to know the other person, which may include discovering common values.
9. Get out of the house.
Although online dating is quite popular these days, it is always better to go out in order to find dates. This is because dating offline is more fun, due to the fact that you get to meet your date personally. Aside from that, when you go outside, it increases your dating potentials further, which can help you end up with someone whom you really enjoy being with.
10. Take a break.
Taking a break from dating can be a good idea, especially if it is making you more miserable. A break from dating can be made for a period of 3 to 6 months. After taking a break, it can provide you with time to rediscover yourself. This basically means that it can offer you more time in getting involved with a hobby, or catching up with your friends.
11. Get to know yourself better.
To enjoy dating more, you need to know yourself better. This means you should determine what you like, what your interests are, what your goals are, and such. By taking note of these things, you will be guided better in choosing your dates. However, it is always a better idea to get out of your comfort zone from time to time to try new things.
12. Avoid negative individuals.
When you are around negative individuals, it would affect your mindset and it can also affect your judgment in a negative way. This is because when you are near them, you might become one of them. Therefore, to enjoy your dates, you should always surround yourself with positive individuals, so that prior to meeting up with him or her, you have a positive mindset.
13. Engaging in the phone or online sex.
Engaging in online or phone sex is not a good idea. This is because you cannot expect anything from it, but just a waste of your time. This is because people who do these sorts of things often are involved with it just to while away their extra time. Thus, if you participate in it, then you cannot expect them to respect you.
14. Acknowledge the presence of dubious behavior.
If you have been with lots of failed relationships, then you must realize that many of these breakups, could have been prevented, if you acknowledge the presence of dubious behavior in the early stages of the relationship, or during your dating times. Therefore, if you see these things on your date, then you should confront him or her about it, or simply look for another one.
15. Have a life.
If you have found a date whom you really like, it is very important that you are still aware of your priorities. Thus, you should not become dependent on him or her, so that he would see you as someone who is independent and confident. If you won’t focus on having your own life, then you might end up neglecting yourself, your friends, family, or even your work.
16. Criticizing the date.
You won’t be able to gain lots of things if you criticize your date by talking about him or her with your friends. Always keep in mind that you also do not want to be criticized for your actions. Thus, if you simply don’t like your date, then you should be mature enough not to set up another encounter with the person.
17. Control your drinks.
Drinking a bottle or two of your favorite beer while you are dating is not a sin. However, you should limit the number of bottles you consume, since you might end up losing control of yourself when you have too much to drink. Thus, if you tend to over drink, then you should avoid it by all means, since you might lose your chances of starting a relationship with your date.
18. Out of your league.
There is always a tendency to bring down yourself, when you think that your date is simply out of your league. This way of thinking about your self-worth should not be encouraged, since if you tend to believe that you are not good enough for a certain individual, then you may end up with someone who is also not good enough, or simply another person who thinks the same way as you do. Thus, it is time to become more confident, so that you can find the person that you really are looking for.
19. Determine what you really want out of dating.
In determining what you really want in dating, you should be able to prevent wasting yours and someone else’s time. Thus, you need to determine whether you are dating to start a brand new relationship, to simply have fun, or to pass your time. By doing that, you can also base your search for your date on it, to find the right person.
20. Fix yourself up for the date.
When you make an effort on your appearance on your date, you can increase the chances of having a good time in it. This is because it can make you feel good about yourself, and increase your self-confidence. Aside from that, you can also ensure to have the right mindset, which can prepare you to have a positive conversation with him or her.
21. Smile on your date.
When you smile, everyone else around you would feel like smiling as well, including your date. Thus, it would encourage a more positive environment between you and your potential partner. Smiling can lead to a more enjoyable conversation, which can make you and your date have more fun while you are both enjoying your meal.
22. Your posture.
Becoming more conscious on your posture can provide you with lots of benefits in terms of your health, as well as your date. This is because it can show your date that you are a strong and independent individual. Aside from that, it would make you feel more confident, aside from making you feel that you are taller.
Shaving is something that both men and women should do, prior to going on a date. For men, having a well-shaved face would impress most women, since women see it as a sign of a man’s cleanliness. For women, it is best that they shave their underarms, since a man could get easily turned off if he sees that his date has hair in that part of her body.
24. Being conscious of your voice.
To sound more mature, it is best that you gain better control of your voice. Maintaining a calmed and low toned voice is the best way to do it. This is because if you talk in a high tone or with cracking sounds, then your date would have a tendency to see you as someone who is immature. Thus, it is best if you train yourself for this.
25. Your smell.
Smelling good is very important on a date. Thus, using a good perfume or even just a good smelling cologne would already impress your date. Aside from that, you should always make sure that you wear a reliable deodorant, since if you sweat and its odor mixes with your perfume, then you might need to kiss your chances of having a second date goodbye.
26. Taboo subjects.
Picking the right kinds of topics for your conversation is one of the most important things that you need to take note of, while you are on a date. To make it easier though, you should avoid talking about subjects that are taboo, since it would not encourage a more relaxing environment. Focus on more lighter topics, so that you and your date would enjoy the conversation more.
27. Avoid a bad mood.
Anything that can cause someone to have a bad mood should be avoided in any case, when you are on a date. This is because having a bad mood can make a dream date into a nightmare. Thus, it is best that you always focus on the positive side of things. Aside from that, you should also avoid sarcasm. Moreover, it is never a good idea to be late on your first date.
28. Use the name of your date.
Using the name of your date all throughout the night on your conversation would help you a lot. By doing that, you would actually be helping yourself in remembering his or her name, since you are constantly saying it. Aside from that, it can also create a more intimate atmosphere between you and your date.
29. Use different perfumes or colognes.
If you have been going out with a woman or a man for several occasions, then you should change your perfume or cologne, each time you go out with your date. This is because variety is the spice of life. Aside from that, you can actually impress your date by asking them about what type of cologne he or she likes best, and wear it on the next date.
30. Stay fit.
Staying as fit as you can be would make you more attractive, aside from the fact that it would also boost your self-esteem. Because of that, you would be able to portray a more confident self when you meet with your date for the first time. Therefore, it is time that you get some exercise on a regular basis, and combine it with a healthy diet.
31. You are serious about your future.
When you show your date that you are serious about your future, then it provides them with a reassurance that you can also serious about them. Although your date may not be looking for a long-term relationship, it is still best if you treat him or her as someone who could be your potential partner, especially if you really like them.
32. Be someone your date can introduce to her parents.
If you are serious about your date, then you should give him or her an impression that you are worthy to be introduced to your date’s parents. This means that you need to become presentable, by dressing and behaving appropriately. This does not mean that you need to become too serious though. Telling a joke or two would definitely make you more comfortable with each other.
33. Never interrupt.
Interrupting someone while he or she is talking is not a good idea, especially on a date. Unless if you want to annoy your date, you should never interrupt while he or she is talking, since it can be viewed as a sign of disrespect. Always let your date finish what he or she is saying, so that you would also be able to understand what they are trying to say.
34. Don’t be a whiner.
When you are on a date, one of the worst things that you can do is to become a whiner. A whiner often complains about everything, and always tell him or herself that he or she is a loser. Being a whiner on a date is not just annoying, but it can make the other person wish that he or she did not go out with you after all.
35. Don’t be a crybaby.
A crybaby is someone who always talks about his or her past mistakes, problems, or past relationship failures. More often than not, crybabies are looking for shoulders to lean on. However, becoming a shoulder to lean on is not the main purpose of going on a date. Thus, you can’t expect your date to offer you his or her shoulder once you vent out of your feelings regarding your experiences in the past.
36. Let your date talk.
If you want your date to have a good time, then let them talk. People always appreciate it when someone asks for their opinion about something, in which they would enjoy talking about the reasons they say certain things are good or bad. To achieve this, all you actually have to do is to ask open-ended questions.
37. Be a friend to your date.
Becoming a friend to your date is not a bad idea, especially if you have already dated a couple of times. When you become an understanding friend to your date, then he or she will be grateful for it. To be a friend to your date, you simply need to listen to them whenever they need to vent out their emotions about certain things.
Lots of people do not open up too much or invest too many emotions on their dates or potential partners. This is because, they are afraid of getting hurt, or they were hurt before. Thus, it is best that you become a person whom your date can trust. By doing that, you would become closer to your date, once he or she gains more trust in you.
39. Touching your date.
For a man, if his date touches him, he can interpret it as something positive. However, for women, touching them on the first date may not be a good idea, because some may become offended by it. Only touch a woman when she becomes more comfortable with you, in which you already engage in dancing, or if she touches you when you tell jokes.
Some people love dating a mysterious person since they love to slowly uncover things about him or her, as they go on more dates; and, this is especially true to most women. Being mysterious means that you give your date an idea about what you are, but you are not going into more details about it. It leaves them a feeling of hanging, in which they would want to know you more.
41. Learn how to read palms.
Becoming a palm reader can impress your date, aside from the fact that it can give you a chance to hold her hands. Reading your date’s palms would create a more relaxed atmosphere, between you and her. Thus, it can pave the way for more interesting conversations. Aside from that, it can also make her more comfortable with the fact that you are touching her.
42. Be polite but don’t overdo it.
Although opening doors to a woman is indeed a polite thing to do, it is best that you don’t overdo it. This is because women today do not want to feel like they are helpless persons. Thus, it is best if you do it with caution from this day on, so that you won’t be offending your date, by being too polite.
43. Business cards.
If you want your dates to have something that he or she can remember you with, then you should bring with you a number of business cards when you go out with them. Although the best thing to do to be remembered well is to impress your date, having business cards can also provide a unique impression.
44. Doing little things.
If you have been dating someone for quite some time already and you want to make him or her feel special, then you should do little things for your date. Giving her a flower from time to time, or treating him for a snack would go a long way, as far as cultivating your relationship is concerned.
45. Never stalk.
When you have gone out with a person whom you really like and you want to see him or her more, it is not a good idea to stalk them. This is because, it can become quite uncomfortable for a person to see his or her date, every place that they visit. If you want to see your date more, then you should establish contact with them, and see if he or she is still interested.
Learning how to dance would give you lots of benefits, aside from gaining a more flexible body. It can actually help in impressing your date. A man can easily become impressed if he sees that his potential partner is a good dancer, since it shows him how sexy she can be. Aside from that, dancing with each other can create a more comfortable environment between the two persons.
47. The things you need to know on the first date.
There are lots of things that you need to know about your date, the first time you go out with them. One of which would be his or her dislikes, since it can save you headaches. Aside from that, it is very important to know if he or she is currently involved with someone or is married, so that you would know if he or she is worth your time.
48. Starting or keeping a conversation going.
There are lots of things that you can say in order to start or keep a conversation going. One of the things that you can do is to compliment her. Aside from that, you can also ask your date about how their day went by. Moreover, asking questions, especially those that may require your date an explanation about his or her answer is also a good idea.
49. Making compliments.
For a man, making compliments on the woman he is dating is one of the best ways to make her feel appreciated. This is because women in most cases, share a fear of not being attractive on certain occasions. Therefore, if you want to make your date more comfortable with you, then you should compliment how her hair looks like, how her perfume smells so good, and such.
50. Be successful.
If you have gone through a good number of dates already, you would realize that in most cases, topics in a conversation can include where you have been, what you have achieved, and many more. Thus, if you have attained success in life, then there is a good chance that your date would be impressed by your life story.
51. No sex talks.
No sex talks should be a rule that you need to follow, especially on first dates. This is because the first and second dates are usually the time when you get to know the other person, who can be your potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Talking about sex might give the wrong impression about your intentions, which can make the other person feel uncomfortable.
52. Be nice.
Being nice can mean a lot of things, especially for a guy. Nice can mean desirable, normal, presentable, trustable, helpful, or friendly; and, lots of women are actually on the lookout for the nice guys. Thus, taking note of these things can help you make a good impression on your dates.
53. What to do with your apartment.
Whether you are a boy or a girl, you need to come up with an apartment that makes you look more mature, especially if you are approaching a stage, where you are planning to invite your date inside. The apartment should be tidy and clean, and it should be free from posters. Instead, decorate your apartment in a more mature way, and get it organized well, so that you can impress your date.
54. Calling him or her.
If he or she gives you their contact number after a date, you should not call them a day after. Calling just a day after your date is too soon, which can scare your date away. It gives an impression that you are too eager in listening to his or her voice. Thus, it is best if you give him or her a call only after 2 to 4 days after you meet them for the first time.
55. Make memories.
If you are dating the girl of your dreams, make sure to do something that would make memories. You might be glad that you were able to strike a stimulating conversation with her at the bar, but it may not be enough for your date to be memorable. To achieve that, you should do something different, such as bringing her to the zoo, to a circus, or even just a nice walk in the park.
56. Dating is discovering.
Dating is actually a stage in a relationship where you would begin to discover certain things about an individual. Thus, it is best that you have a good conversation with your date, so that you would be able to know him or her better. Knowing your date better would offer you a chance to see if you really are compatible or not.
57. Sharing common values.
Dating can provide you a chance to know whether you and your date share common values. Although sexual chemistry and sharing common interests are two important things to get started on a relationship, sharing common values is much more important, since it can cultivate a more lasting relationship. Thus, it is best that you take advantage of dating to find out more about it.
58. Dating is not something like a vocation.
Dating is not a vocation. Therefore, one of your main objectives in dating should be to have fun in meeting new people. It is not something that you need to do in order to have a life. Although there are lots of things that you need to take note of when it comes to dating, it shouldn’t be treated as something that you really need to perform well on. Thus, have some fun, so that you can be yourself in dating.
59. Never date when you are not over your ex.
If you are not over your ex yet, then you should not go on dates. This is because your emotions can end up destroying all your dates. You might engage into self-pity while you are talking with your dates, aside from talking all about your ex and his or her shortcomings. Thus, make sure that you are completely over your ex prior to dating, so that your potential partners won’t avoid you.
60. Online dating is just one of your options in meeting people.
Many people today engage in online dating, especially those who are quite busy with their own careers. However, online dating should just be viewed as a way to increase your chances of meeting more people whom you may be able to date. Thus, it is just one of the many options that you have when it comes to that. You should still go out, and meet new people personally, so that you can have a more interesting life.
61. You are not in a relationship yet on your first date.
This is one of the most important things that you need to remember when you go on your first date. You are not in a relationship yet, since you don’t know each other that well. Thus, put some boundaries when it comes to sharing stories. Aside from that, you should also avoid acting like you are your date’s girlfriend or boyfriend, since that would just scare them off.
62. Know your limits.
Your limits can sometimes tell you who you really are. Therefore, it is best that you become more aware of it. Aside from that, when you know what your limits are, you can always do something in order to go beyond it. Just make sure that you stay within the boundaries, so that you could still be able to portray the person that you really are.
63. You are worthy.
If you are awed by the presence of your date, you should take control of yourself, by knowing that you are indeed worthy to be his or her date. By doing this, you can become more confident in yourself. Aside from that, if you end up having a relationship with that particular person, it would create a balance between you, which is also very important.
64. Enjoying dating does not mean you have to be blind.
You don’t need to be blind in order to enjoy dating. Many people have a tendency to meet the needs of others, in which they become blind and forget to see their own needs. Thus, it creates an imbalance in a relationship, which is not healthy. Therefore, you should always keep an open ear and an open mind in having a relationship. This way, you would be able to have a relationship, which is not one-sided.
65. It is not a requirement for you to be interested when someone is interested in you.
You could easily tell if your date is genuinely interested in you. However, this does not mean that you also need to become interested in him or her. When a person shows an interest in you, you don’t need to reciprocate it, if you don’t want to. This is because if you force yourself into doing that, you would just be lying to yourself, and be misleading the other person.
66. Finding your type.
When a person says that his or her “type” is this or that, it means that he or she has some preconceived ideas about the person who he or she is attracted to. However, if dating your “type” does not provide you with a fulfilling and healthy relationship, then you should let go of your preconceived ideas, and become more open-minded about dating.
67. Don’t date someone who only communicates through text.
If someone is talking or communicating with you only through text messages, then it is best not to stay in constant communication with them anymore. This is because, in most cases, he or she is seeing you as someone who is good for just a booty call. Thus, it is best to go out with persons who respect you enough to contact you by giving you a call.
68. Do your research.
No matter how the other person shows you how he or she is interested in you, in which he or she initiates the first steps to get into a date with you, you should not be complacent, and still do your research. This is because, you don’t really know what their intentions are. With thorough research, you can feel safer in dating the person, aside from the fact that it can also help you see whether he is attached or not.
69. Ask questions.
Before going into your third date, you should know whether a person is still trying to get over an ex, is married, or has just been separated. To achieve that, you need to ask questions regarding all of these. If you can’t do it on your first date, then make sure to do it on the second date so that you are assured that you are not wasting your time on him or her.
70. Don’t cloud your judgment.
If you focus too much on the achievements of a person or how much the person is earning on a monthly basis, it can lead you to make incorrect conclusions about people. Thus, you need to look past that, so that you would be able to see what the person is really made of. Talk to your date and listen attentively, so that you can see the real person inside.
71. Meet new people and make new experiences.
If you always go through the same daily routine that you are used to, even on weekends, then you may not be able to get a date that could change your life. Thus, you need to put some variety into your life, by going to new and interesting places, where you could meet new people. By doing that, you won’t just be relying on your luck on scoring a date, but you are making things happen on your own.
72. To enjoy dating, you need to invest time and effort.
There may be times when you don’t feel like going out for a date. However, since you have already set the time, and you don’t want to make a fool of someone else, then you need to do it. The date may not be that great, but there is also a good possibility that it would. Therefore, aside from investing time and effort, you should also take a chance.
73. Don’t expect too much from people.
When you expect too much from your date, you may end up getting disappointed with him or her. The best way to do it is to not expect anything from someone, which you are not also capable of doing by yourself. Aside from that, it is best to expect less from them, so that you would get surprised when your date does something great that you are not expecting.
74. Getting to know your date.
Getting to know your date is one of the best things that you can do, in order to see if you can really build a lasting relationship with them. Thus, you need to ask questions about what your date believes in, what he or she is planning for her life, what his or her goals are, and more. Aside from asking questions though, you should also observe if they are living the way they say they are.
75. Don’t be too fast in writing off somebody.
If you are not able to hit it off right away on your first date, there is no need to write off somebody right away. This is because, it is very possible that you or your date may not be comfortable with you yet. In most cases, it takes around 2 or 3 dates, before you could get a sense, whether you are really interested in the person or not.
76. Never force yourself to like someone.
Forcing yourself to like someone is never a good idea, unless you simply want to try it out. It does not mean that if your date is the nicest one you have went out with that you should like him. This is because being nice is not the only requirement for a relationship to grow. You also need to share common interests and values, so that you can agree on lots of things.
77. Lazy communication.
There are certain persons who communicate only through text, emails, or instant messages. If you want a more open relationship, then you should avoid these types of persons. This is because these ones usually do not want to reveal themselves to other individuals. Aside from that, they may also become lazy in their relationships.
78. Can the other person give you what you want in a relationship?
This is a question that you need to ask to yourself, especially when you have taken further steps in your relationship, after dating a number of times. This is because you want to make sure that you are investing on something that is worth every minute of your time. Aside from that, it can also prevent you from expecting too much from someone.
79. Be careful in telling your date about your past relationships.
Your first and second dates are not the best times in telling your date about your past relationships. This is because it can make the other person be bored with all your past stories. You should know that your date is interested in you, and not your past. Aside from that, your information about your past relationships should not be shared to someone whom you do not trust fully yet.
80. Going to movies.
Watching movies should not be done on your first few dates. This is because these dates should be the stage where you want to get to know each other well. When you go inside the movie theater, on top of being too dark, it won’t allow you to talk to each other well. In relation to this, on these first few dates, you should do something, which involves lots of interaction.
81. Pay attention.
Paying attention to your date is a must, if you want to make sure that you are indeed dating someone who has no issues. Paying attention can help you identify signs, which can tell you about the negative behavior of your potential partner. By doing this, you would become more aware of the things that you need to consider, on deciding whether you want to see him or her again or not.
82. Stay away from your date’s home.
If it is still your first, second, third, or fourth date, you should stay away from your date’s home. This is because it is simply too soon to be invited over to a house, or inviting someone, unless you both want to go to the bedroom immediately, and it is your purpose of going out. If that is not the case though, only visit your date’s house when you are already in the latter stages of your relationship.
83. Be honest.
If you are really interested in the other person, then you should not hide it. Dating should not be a game, since it can make you send out all the wrong messages. Instead, you should be as honest as possible, so that your date can also see your true self. By doing that, you would be able to build your relationship on the right path.
84. Show that you are interested.
Showing the other person that you are interested in is a must, especially if you really are. This is because it can build his or her self-esteem, knowing that you may be looking forward to seeing him or her again. With that, you both would become more excited in seeing each other, and be able to enjoy each other’s company more.
85. Your mobile phone.
When you are on a date, one of the things that can annoy the other person is when you stop your conversation in order to answer a call, or read a text message. Therefore, you should turn off your mobile phone or put it in silent mode, prior to sitting in front of your date at the dining table. Just answer the messages when you go to the restroom.
86. Talking and listening.
Some people think that they need to talk a lot in order to impress their dates. However, you need to maintain a good balance in talking and listening when you are on a date. If you are doing most of the talking, then your date may not be interested in sharing some information to you or you simply are not giving them a chance to talk.
87. Talk about yourself positively.
You need to build yourself up in your date, so that you can sell yourself effectively. Thus, you need to be aware of your positive traits. By doing that, you would be able to talk about yourself in a more positive tone, which can impress the other person. However, you need to be careful in doing it, so that you won’t become someone who is obnoxious.
88. Building your profile in online dating.
Since online dating is quite popular these days, then you should also take advantage of it. When it comes to building up your profile, make sure to indicate whether you are interested in a long-term relationship or not. By doing this, you can effectively filter out the persons who do not share the same goals as you do.
89. Tell a friend or a close relative that you are going on a date.
Since there are lots of crazy people these days, it is always a good idea to tell a friend or a close relative about your date. You should tell them about the time and the venue just to be on the safe side. To feel more secure though, you can always prefer to go on a date in a more public venue.
90. You don’t have to research about your date’s ex.
One of the most important things in dating is to be yourself. Therefore, you should not do your research about your date’s ex, since you may have a tendency to develop a sense of insecurity because of that. Instead, focus on revealing your true self to your date, so that he or she would be able to decide whether you are indeed the one that they are looking for or not.
91. Don’t be too available.
If a person you are dating has let a week go by before calling you up to set up another date, then you should not accept the invitation. This is because it could show them that you are too available, or are desperate in going out. If a person thinks about you that way, then he may begin to think about you in a negative way and come up with bad ideas.
92. Don’t be confrontational.
You might think that being confrontational or aggressive can make the other person think that you are self-reliant and self-assured. Although this is true, it is actually not a good idea to make this kind of impression on your first few dates. This is because, the other person may come to think that you would be using your aggressive behavior to manipulate him or her.
93. What to do when your date is reluctant in answering your questions.
Asking the right questions is very important in order to gain the right information from your date. However, if your date is having second thoughts in answering them, then either he or she is hiding something from you, or is trying to come up with a lie. You can’t date someone who is not an open book, since you might end up expecting something that he or she cannot provide.
94. You can always say no.
It is quite understandable that you want to be agreeable in order to prevent confrontations. However, you can always say no if you really disagree on something. By doing that, you are actually being honest to your date. Aside from that, it would let your date get to know you better, and would also encourage them to be themselves as well.
95. If you want honesty, be honest.
Since you want your date to be honest, you should also be honest yourself. Being honest means that you are being yourself. By doing that, you are actually revealing yourself to your date, and it is up to him or her to like you for it or not. When you are honest, it may also encourage the other person to be honest as well. Besides, being honest can also help you see if the other person is lying or is telling you the truth.
96. It is fine to be unsure on the first date.
If you are not so sure about the outcome of your first date and you are still willing to give it a try, then you should contact the other person 2 to 4 days later. Some people can take some time to become more comfortable with someone new. Thus, after a few dates, you should be able to conclude whether you can start a relationship with your date or not.
98. Don’t date just because your friends and family tell you so.
When you date just because your friends and family tell you so, then you are not being true to yourself. This can lead you to dates that are not worth remembering, especially if you live it to them in setting you up with someone they know. Thus, it is best that you would go out on a date, because you really want to.
99. Choosing a site for online dating.
Online dating provides you a way to meet people that share your interests. In choosing the site though, it is best that you do your research about it. By doing that, you would be ensuring that your information is safe. Aside from that, researching can also help you choose a site that would raise your potentials in finding the person you are meant to be with.
100. You don’t have to say that you love a person.
Only say the three magic words, when you really mean it. Thus, you don’t have to say it when you truly appreciate the other person for his or her actions. Aside from that, even though you really think that you are falling for him or her, you should not say these words until you have begun building the first few blocks of your relationship.
101. What it means if your date tells you he or she loves you.
If a person tells you that he or she loves you, even when you are still at the first or second date, then it can mean a lot of things. For instance, they may simply want to get you to bed, or are simply not evaluating their feelings well. Nevertheless, this means that he or she is speeding things up, instead of letting your relationship grow on a more natural pace.