If you're reading this you're probably on the lookout for a man of taste. A man with charm, intelligence, and character. These high-quality men don't lurk around waiting for just about anyone to pick them up. They're more like Waldo and finding them can be a bit tricky.
You have probably tried Tinder and other dating apps. These platforms are great for attracting a large number of men but it's tough to sift through the meh-profiles to get to the cream of the crop.
At this point, I can guess that you might be tired and losing motivation. You're probably wondering, 'Will I ever get my high-quality man?' I'm here to assure you that you just have to make a few changes to start attracting the man you want.
I have just 5 Tips To Get You 5 Steps Closer To Your Dream Guy. What are you waiting for? Let's get started!
Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
When you use many dating apps, it's easy to get carried away by the bios and alluring photos.
People on dating apps try to present themselves in a similar way that they would during a job interview. That makes it tougher for you to keep track of what is real and what is exaggerated. Before falling for some flashy words or polished photos start looking for some important keywords.
You might be wondering, "What keywords?"
Each of us has something that we are looking for in a relationship. These things are usually based on what you value the most in yourself. Those qualities are reflected in the person that we want to be in a relationship with.
So when you sift through endless bios, start looking for meaningful words that reflect your values. Words related to their passions, dreams, ideas, and interests will be the most authentic information you will find on the dating platform.
Don't Fall Into The Honey Trap
Online dating is all about making the best impression on the other person. This is why some people set up honey traps to get the best catch.
A honey trap is a conversation where the other person is just trying to say nice things to you to make you fall for them. These nice words have no meaning behind them and are generally a way to manipulate the listener.
You might be shaking your head while reading this. Why would anyone go to such lengths online? But did you know that approximately 51% of people lie about themselves online and only 16-32% of people try to remain truthful about themselves.
These honey trappers aren't the kind of high-quality men that you are looking for. They are generally guys who are shallow and insecure about themselves which is why they need to use such tactics.
The men of substance will be those who are truly themselves while talking to you. You'll be able to spot them when they aren't rushing to compliment you every moment. They are honest about their opinions even if it is something that goes against yours.
So make sure not to fall for those sweet honeyed words. You'll bear-ly make it out!
Cut Through The Decorations, Get To The Heart
Establishing a connection on dating platforms can be quite difficult. High-quality men make subtle moves to learn more about their partner as early on as possible. But when they are met with only surface-level chatter they quickly lose interest.
If you want to set yourself apart and make an impression in his mind, you have to be different. You cannot just ask questions about how much he earns, or where he would like to go on a vacation. You need to ask the kinds of questions that will make him think.
Here are a few of the questions that can help you to create a deeper discussion:
- What would a perfect day look like for you?
- What do you feel the most grateful for in your life?
- What memory do you hold dear to you?
You can read this list of 36 questions to find many more like these.
When you start asking these questions you will also be able to figure out more about the men who answer them. You will get to know if they are on the same page as you. Plus the classy men that you are looking for will start coming out of the woodwork.
Watch The Signs Along The Road
Just like Hansel and Gretel following the bread crumbs, you have also got to follow the bread crumbs online. There are certain tell-tale signs that a high-quality man leaves around that can help you find him.
- He takes time to learn about you, your likes dislikes, and everything in between. This shows that he is genuinely interested and wanting to learn. This kind of man is pure quality and someone who you should take things ahead with.
- He is not uncomfortable sharing about things that matter to him. If you ask him about his passions, his family, he will be completely open and free with you. If you get any cagey replies then you'll know that he probably isn't made of husband material.
- If he takes his time to get to know you. When a man is in a rush it shows that he wants something other than a relationship. His mind is not serious and he cannot hold his attention on you for too long. But a good man will go slow and learn about you slowly. He will ask the right questions and give you space to share. That's when you know that he is building the correct base.
- He listens to you and understands the feelings behind your words. A true man of quality can gauge what you are feeling just by the tone of your voice or the way you express yourself. This shows that he has high emotional intelligence and it is something that will greatly benefit your relationship.
Let Your Light Shine Through
After all that searching and preparation there's just one small thing that you have got to do. This should be the easiest thing for you to accomplish.
It involves just being yourself in whatever conversations you have. Let your confidence shine through when you approach new people. Don't shy away from being quirky or making silly jokes. The person on the receiving end of them will appreciate you truly being yourself.
And if they don't, at least you'll be able to weed out the guys who aren't going to be on your high-quality list.
Above all, you can push yourself to make bold moves too. If a guy has passed all these levels and wants to make a genuine connection with you, it's okay to make the first move. Let's throw out those outdated gender roles and live our life fully!
These are some of the tactics that are guaranteed to help you snag your high-quality man!