What would you do if your blocks you fron his/her social media accounts such as Facebook or Snapchat etc. 99% of the people would freak out.
I was reading through a blog yesterday, and in the comments section came across an interesting question from one of the users. He/she asks,
“It’s been about 15 days since my ex-girlfriend broke up with me… needless to say, I’m pretty torn up about it. We were still friends on Facebook up until yesterday when I noticed that she had ‘disappeared’. I thought she might have deleted her profile or something. But after a bit more poking around, I found out she actually blocked me. I miss her so much and I want her back…
Bro, what should I do?”
That’s a really good question, and I’m going, to be honest, it’s a pretty difficult one for me to answer.
A lot of what you choose to do next will depend on the nature of your relationship with your ex, and the reasons why you two broke up. If your ex blocked you on Facebook, it means that not only does your ex not want to talk to you, but they also may be worried that you might invade their private life.
I’ll be the first to admit that this isn’t a good sign, but you should NEVER get too worked up about this… and, for a few good reasons.
For one, if your ex blocked you for no good reason, it’s possible that he or she would be open to unblock you in the future. A lot of people think that they’ll never talk to their exes ever again and tend to overreact in situations such as this. But I can safely tell you that overreacting will NOT help you get your ex back.
And number two, it’s possible that the reason your ex is blocking you is because maybe they are struggling with the breakup themselves.
Seeing your posts on social media will only make it more difficult for him or her to get over you and move on. So that’s another reason not to overreact to the situation.
And finally, if they block you on Facebook or social media, it doesn’t mean they are necessarily not open to receiving phone calls and messages from you in the future – it may simply mean they don’t want to see you on social media right now.
But unfortunately, I have to talk about the bad news.
If your ex blocked you for a good reason, then trying to get back together with him or her may be more trouble than it’s worth. For example, if you went through a bad breakup with your ex, or infidelity with a huge issue in your relationship, then it’s quite possible that your ex might be so angry at you that they don’t want to talk to you right now. This is obviously quite common and I see examples of situations like this every day.
If your ex blocks you after an extremely emotional and abusive breakup, it’s a good idea to definitely keep your distance for an extended period of time and do your best to move on.
In fact, regardless of why you think your ex blocked you, you should never, ever make this a big deal. Don’t call or text your ex asking why he or she did it. Don’t pester them. And also, don’t try and ask their friends why this happened.
In fact, you shouldn’t acknowledge to ANYONE that your ex blocked you.
The best thing you can do right now is to accept the fact that communication with your ex is not an option and engage in a period of extended No Contact.
If you’re dead set on reopening the line of communication with your ex, you’re going to have to wait a substantial amount of time before trying to reconnect. How much time depends on your specific situation, but attempting to communicate with your ex within a month of him or her blocking you is totally out of the question.
Once this time passes, you’re going to want to set up a line of communication naturally. That obviously means no stalking or following him or her. I know that sounds silly, but you’d be surprised at how often I have to tell people not to stalk their exes! The best way to reestablish communication is by setting up a hangout with a few of your mutual friends. So for example, plan a night out with a bunch of friends that you and your ex shared and ask these mutual friends to casually invite your ex, just to see how he or she is doing.
Your ex will be much more likely to come out if you’re with a bunch of his or her friends. Once you see your ex, do NOT make seeing them a big deal. Your only goal at this point is to have fun and re-engage in casual conversation with your ex. Do NOT make things awkward, and do NOT cause any unnecessary drama. Remember, at this point your ex is probably dreading talking to you for whatever reason, and you have to do whatever you can to not intensify those feelings.
Take things slow and remember to be upbeat, positive, and friendly.
If you’re feeling as if he or she is still being super awkward with you, then take a hint and back off a little bit… you don’t want to make your ex feel regret for coming out. But, if your ex seems open to chatting, then casually engage in small talk. Questions like, “How’s your summer been?” or “How’s work treating you?” are a great way to start a conversation. Your goal is to simply be friendly with your ex, and that’s it. At the end of the night, tell your ex that it was nice to see them… and that they should text you sometime-just as friends.
Don’t be pushy, brash, or rude… let your ex come back to YOU.
The more aggressive you are with your ex, the more it will reaffirm their original decision to block you in the first place.
Now...before we wrap up this article, you need to know that if your ex blocks you in any way, it isn’t the end of the world. Do your best to fight the urge to lash out and contact him or her. And also, fight the temptation to get angry at yourself or the situation – keep in mind that this does happen quite commonly.
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If you haven't been blocked by your ex, but are considering deleting or unfriending them from Facebook then you should read this post "Should I delete my ex from Facebook"