It is so tough to find.
That is why you do not just throw a connection off. It took you much time and effort to get here. Sure, it's not ideal, but no relationship is.
I used to believe that if you wished to make a relationship work, you can. It was only a matter of figuring out how to get along. Whether he was not prepared it did not even matter --you might turn the relationship around yourself.
But there's a requirement...
Some associations shouldn't be spared.
Some relationships hurt you, physically and emotionally. The very best thing you can do is get out.
Being in a terrible marriage puts your health at risk. You get sick more often. You take more time to cure. Your risk of heart disease and depression extends up.
So how can you know if your relationship has crossed that line?
You watch for these 5 signs.
When your man does and you head to speak to him about it, he blames what he did on you.
You made him do it. What exactly was he expected to perform? You pushed him . Any man would have reacted like that. You are just lucky that.
Warning Sign #2.
You go to speak to him , and when your guy does something that hurts you, he disputes it.
That isn't how it happened. You have it wrong. You said it happened today, a day and it happened. See? That is proof you're lying. You are making up things. You're only hoping to get him in trouble.
Warning Sign #3.
When your guy does and you head to talk to him about it, he claims that you are the one.
He is the victim . He was sitting here minding his own company when you start yelling at him and come up. What about forgive and forget? Do you hold onto this stuff? It's like you want to paint him. You are no Little Miss Perfect yourself.
Warning Sign #4.
You head to speak to him, and when your guy does something that hurts you, he says you are overreacting.
Get on your own. Can't you take a laugh? Crazy woman. Could it be your time of the month? He does not have to put up with your wild accusations. When you are fair 8, he will talk.
Warning Sign #5.
When your guy does something that hurts you, and you head to speak to him about it, he denies duty.
Your feelings are your feelings. You're responsible for how you chose it. Nobody can hurt anyone. You are trying to guilt-trip himand he is sick of it. Grow up.
Perhaps some of you right now are nodding your head and thinking,"Uh huh, yep, I've heard that before."
If your man has stated most of the time, and this type of item to you once or twice he is good at hearing out, I would not worry.
But if your man says this sort of stuff to you a great deal I have a challenge for you.
Get on the internet and see if you can find yourself a copy of Patricia Evan's publication The Verbally Abusive Relationship.
Read it. If you resonate with what it says, see.
I'll simply say that this book changed my life. I had been in a relationship at the time in which my spouse was coming down on me. He raged at me, said it was my fault, denied everything that happened that I thought I went crazy--which, clearly, he would have agreed with.
Patricia Evans helped me see that it was not me. It was like she could see in my connection. I'll always be thankful to her.
Does it frighten you to think of the fact your relationship could be bad? I hear you. It is not happening Since in the event that you pretend it is not happening, then maybe. Than facing up to the fact that is doing something quite awful and that can feel better.